Too strong to self care?

Happy October all!

This summer has been hectic but in the best possible way. I celebrated with friends, had a lovely week off, went to events and achieved a few goals.

I definitely burnt the candle at both ends though. I planned and organized more than expected (I’m a list maker and a bit of a perfectionist at times, which can get a bit ott)

The past couple of days I’ve been feeling a bit run down, and unfortunately now have a chest infection.

I had the last 48 hours planned, food shopping, laundry, buying birthday gifts, visiting friends, appointments.

I really struggled to get out of bed this morning, I knew all that I had planned for the day ahead, and knew I was in for a long one

I cancelled on a friend for this evening, explaining that I’m not feeling well enough to meet. Thankfully she understood, which was a weight off of my shoulders, and felt as if I’d been given approval for a few hours ‘off’.

For years I suffered with depression, and when I finally realised that I needed to take the time out to look after myself, I would apologize for it. To this day, I still hesitate when I think about taking time out for myself, and can feel guilty.

This evening I decided to completely shut down. Take time out and kick back.

It’s a cliche I know, but a hot bubble bath is a perfect way to relax.

To lay in the bath, with a few delicious candles around you, a bath bomb fizzing and the warmth of the water massaging your skin. It’s perfection. And maybe a glass of wine or a cup of tea.

Whilst bathing, I set up my laptop and watched ‘Think Like a Man Too’.

Have a film on in the background that relaxes you, one that you’ve seen 101 times so that you don’t have to concentrate. Nothing with too much drama or emotions that will get you worked up.

After my bath, I had a mini pamper session.

I find that filing my nails, putting on a fresh coat of polish and a face mask can do wonders. Even if it’s just my arms, elbows and knees, I love to moisturise, and put on some fresh pajamas and fluffy socks.

Another way to unwind and reset your mind, is to write a list. This also put’s a stop to any negative thoughts or attitude spilling over, and ruining a brand new day tomorrow.

As I was writing, I was listening/watching on of my favorite youtubbers, Alex, Learning to be Fearless. Alex is such an uplifting person who is easy to watch and is relatable.

Writing a list of what is making you feel sad, angry and upset can help you to let it all out and actually look at the problems one by one instead of the emotions being jumble and growing stronger because you’re confused.

Next, write a list of all that makes you happy. Even if it’s the minutest thing.

The way a new t shirt looks on you, that you have a book you’re excited to read, that you spoke to an old friend today.

Anything that lifts your spirits. It can be difficult to find the silver lining at times, and it helps to take a step back to put yourself back together and just breath.

Never feel guilty for taking care of yourself, mentally,physically or emotionally.

This doesn’t mean that you’re weak, or that you’re selfish. It’s necessary to survive.

I cannot stress how important it is to look after yourself, because if you don’t,no one else will.

I hope everyone’s had a good start to the week, please comment if you have any self care tips to share.

Kaya •

6 thoughts on “Too strong to self care?”

  1. I have suffered with depression for years and also find it difficult to take time for myself. I really like your tip on writing the lists. I’m going to try that. I hope you feel better!

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  2. I also struggle with taking care of myself. Like you, I’ve been struggling with some health issues that have popped up. Your blog was a reminder of how important it is to self care.😀

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